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The Evolution of Desire: Strategies of Human Mating

David Buss ISBN 9780465021437

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This book by David Buss has come up 4 times across 3 different shows: Andrew Huberman, Joe Rogan, Lex Fridman. The people who brought it up: Andrew Huberman, David Buss, Lex Fridman. The earliest mention we indexed is from 2021-11-29 and the most recent from 2025-10-02. Every occurrence below links to the episode page and to the exact second it was said on YouTube.

What it is

How we choose - and lose - our mates has always been a source of fascination. This controversial book is the first to present a unified theory of human mating behavior. The Evolution of Desire is based on the most massive study of human mating ever undertaken, encompassing more than 10,000 people of all ages from thirty-seven cultures worldwide. If we all want love, why is there so much conflict in our most cherished relationships? To answer this question, we must look into our evolutionary past, according to David M. Buss.

Every time it came up

Guest's own workAndrew Huberman

Essentials: How Humans Select & Keep Romantic Partners in the Short & Long Term | Dr. David Buss

“my first book, which I've had the good fortune to be able to revise a couple times, deals more broadly with human mating strategies. It's called The Evolution of Desire”— David Buss

The guest here is Dr. David Buss: Evolutionary psychologist at UT Austin and a founder of the field, known for cross-cultural research on human mating. Author of The Evolution of Desire and the most widely used evolutionary psychology textbook. Evolutionary psychologist David Buss breaks down what men and women select for in short-term hookups versus lifelong partners.

00:29:062025-10-02
Guest's own workJoe Rogan

Joe Rogan Experience #1959 - David Buss

“I would say the first one to start with would be the evolution of Desire because that gives a broad overview of human strategies of human mating”— David Buss

The guest here is David Buss: Evolutionary psychologist at the University of Texas at Austin, pioneer in the study of human mating strategies and author of The Evolution of Desire. Evolutionary psychologist David Buss explains the science of human mating, sex differences, infidelity, and why society denies them.

02:32:052024-06-27
Guest's own workLex Fridman

David Buss: Sex, Dating, Relationships, and Sex Differences | Lex Fridman Podcast #282

“has authored many exciting and challenging books including the evolution of desire strategies of human mating bad men”— Lex Fridman

The guest here is David Buss: Evolutionary psychologist at UT Austin and one of the founders of evolutionary psychology, known for research on human mate selection and sex differences. Author of The Evolution of Desire, The Dangerous Passion, and the textbook Evolutionary Psychology. Evolutionary psychologist David Buss explains the science of human mating, sex differences, jealousy, and violence with Lex Fridman.

00:00:302022-05-04
Guest's own workAndrew Huberman

How Humans Select & Keep Romantic Partners in Short & Long Term | Dr. David Buss

“Doctor Buss has authored many important books, a few of those include, The Evolution of Desire, and Why Women Have Sex”— Andrew Huberman

The guest here is Dr. David Buss: Professor of Psychology at the University of Texas, Austin, and a founding figure in evolutionary psychology. His lab pioneered research on human mating strategies and sex differences in mate selection. Evolutionary psychologist David Buss explains the science of how humans choose, keep, deceive, and fight over short- and long-term mates.

00:02:402021-11-29