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Tim Ferriss · 2022-06-02

Isabel Behncke — Lessons from Sex and Play, What We Can Learn from Bonobos and Chimpanzees, and More

Primatologist Isabel Behncke on wild bonobos, the evolution of play, niche construction, and what their playful societies teach humans about time, risk, and connection.

Isabel Behncke — Lessons from Sex and Play, What We Can Learn from Bonobos and Chimpanzees, and More
The guest

Isabel Behncke: Chilean field primatologist and applied evolutionary ethologist who followed wild bonobos in the Congo for months; TED Fellow, Grueter Institute senior fellow, holds degrees from UCL, Cambridge, and Oxford, and advises the Chilean government on science and innovation strategy.

What this episode covers

Tim Ferriss talks with field primatologist Isabel Behncke about her research observing wild bonobos in the jungles of the Democratic Republic of Congo, where she walked over 3,000 kilometers tracking our closest living relatives. The conversation ranges across the history of evolutionary thinking (Humboldt, Darwin, ethology versus Skinner's behaviorism), the differences between bonobos and chimpanzees, and the role of female choice and resource abundance in shaping bonobo society. Behncke explains 'niche construction', how organisms actively modify their environments and cultures in feedback loops, as one of the most exciting recent developments in evolutionary biology. The core thread is her 'adaptive joker hypothesis' about play: why intelligent, social, long-lived animals keep playing into adulthood, and how play trains them to read and adapt to context. She closes with practical reflections on managing energy budgets versus fixed time budgets, and recovering childhood forms of play in adult life.

Recommended on this episode

BookRecommendedISBN verified

The Invention of Nature

Andrea Wulf

“I would really recommend the most fantastic book I've read in the last few years”
“if you want to read about this i would really recommend the most fantastic book i've read in the last few years by andrea wolfe it's called the invention of nature”— Isabel Behncke
MediaRecommended

Letters of Note

Shaun Usher

“which I recommend to everyone”
“i wanted to read a letter from letters of note which i recommend to everyone this they have instagram they have a website they have books letters of note”— Tim Ferriss
BookRecommended

Swarm

Mark Moffett

“so that's a recommendation”
“he published a book called swarm it's basically about human societies and he makes this wonderful point that in many respects the dynamics of ants inform us”— Isabel Behncke
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Of Wolves and Men

Barry Lopez

“which is a spectacular book”
“which is a story told in a book called of wolves in men by barry lopez which is a spectacular book and he talks about traveling with field biologists”— Tim Ferriss

Also referenced (named, not recommended)

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Consilience: The Unity of Knowledge

E.O. Wilson

“there's also a book by eo wilson called consilience that people might check out it's it's a bit dense but consilience is a great word”— Tim Ferriss
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On the Origin of Species

Charles Darwin

“he died by the way on 1859 which is the date that darwin published the origin of the species so there's like an interesting evolutionary contingency”— Isabel Behncke
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The Voyage of the Beagle

Charles Darwin

“darwin was reading humble's diaries of his explorations in south america... he's he's writing his voyage of the beagle diaries and citing her humbled”— Isabel Behncke
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The Goodness Paradox

Richard Wrangham

“his last book is called the goodness paradox the goodness paradox yes namely why is it that humans are you know relatively good”— Isabel Behncke
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The Ape and the Sushi Master

Frans de Waal

“the book for more this is by franz de val the dutch mythologist is called the ape and the sushi master it's a great title”— Isabel Behncke
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Oxford Handbook of Tropical Medicine

Oxford University Press

“you think you can control many things but i took this book called the oxford handbook of tropical medicine i did not read it beforehand”— Isabel Behncke
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Heart of Darkness

Joseph Conrad

“as conrad the writer the author of the heart of darkness described it because he sailed there that's the origin of heart of darkness”— Isabel Behncke
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Project Nim

James Marsh

“i watched documentary i believe the name is nim or project nim and it spoke to i want to say an ex let's just say a field experiment”— Tim Ferriss
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Jane

Brett Morgen

“they can also find documentaries like jane online which will give you quite a view into this four-year war as you mentioned”— Tim Ferriss
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Jiro Dreams of Sushi

David Gelb

“and that is most certainly a japanese name completely like jiro dreams of sushi same same super super fascinating”— Tim Ferriss

Big reveals from this episode

  • Behncke describes observing two bonobo males, Bako and Jiro, from different communities playing together, including kicking each other in the genitals, which she frames as play 'with a line of trust, vulnerability and real life risk' and the root of what play is.
  • She names niche construction as the most interesting recent development in evolution: organisms aren't passive adapters but 'agents of their own change' who modify themselves, each other, and their environments, and humans are also 'cultural niche constructors.'
  • Behncke debunks the simple archetype that chimps are aggressive hunters and bonobos are peaceful 'vegan orgy lovers,' stressing both species hunt, both have conflict, and reality is far more nuanced.
  • She explains the leading theory for why bonobos are 'nicer': a fruit-rich environment let females stay in the same physical space, form bonds and coalitions, and select for non-infanticidal, 'nice' males through female choice.
  • Behncke introduces her 'adaptive joker hypothesis', the idea that play, like a joker card, takes on the value of the moment and makes animals skilled at reading and adapting to context.
  • Her central life advice: distinguish your energy budget (financial, can grow) from your fixed time budget (everyone, even an earthworm, has 24 hours), and manage time investment according to context, uncertainty, and risk.
  • On the drunken monkey hypothesis, Behncke argues the deeper reason humans are drawn to fermentation isn't just food-seeking but play, the shared 'machinery for biological excitement and intensity seeking' that links substance use, creativity, and risk-taking.

Worth remembering

  • Isabel Behncke is described as the first South American to follow great apes in the wild of Africa, walking more than 3,000 kilometers (roughly 1,864 miles) in the jungles of Congo.
  • Conrad Lorenz discovered imprinting by raising goslings that fixated on him as their mother, learning their vocalizations and having them follow him.
  • Alexander von Humboldt was born the same year as Napoleon (1769) and died in 1859, the same year Darwin published On the Origin of Species.
  • Darwin spent about three years of the five-year Beagle voyage in Chile, far more time than in the Galapagos, and credited Humboldt's diaries as the reason he took the voyage.
  • There are roughly 10,000 to 60,000 bonobos in the world, while chimpanzees number at least an order of magnitude more, possibly close to a million across subspecies.
  • The formation of the Congo River likely drove the speciation of bonobos (south of the river) and chimpanzees (north of the river); the Congo basin rivals the Amazon as one of the planet's 'lungs.'
  • In Behncke's Congo study site, antivenom for snakes like green mambas and Congo vipers couldn't be stored because there was no electricity for refrigeration, 600 km from the nearest town.
  • Japanese primatology dates to the 1940s; researchers documented a female macaque named Imo on Koshima Island inventing sweet-potato washing, a famous example of innovation spreading through social networks.
  • A coyote was filmed playing with a badger in the US, non-combative interspecies play that matched Native American mythologies long dismissed by Western field biologists.
  • As one doctor told Ferriss: 'fifty percent of what we know is wrong, we just don't know which fifty percent.'