The Dance of Connection (book on apology)

This book by Harriet Lerner came up once on Andrew Huberman in the episodes we index. That mention was a genuine on-air recommendation, not just a passing reference. The people who brought it up: Esther Perel. Every occurrence below links to the episode page and to the exact second it was said on YouTube.

In her most affirming and life-changing book yet, Dr. Harriet Lerner teaches us how to restore love and connection with the people who matter the most. In The Dance of Connection we learn what to say (and not say) when: We need an apology, and the person who has harmed us won't apologize or be accountable.We don't know how to take a conversation to the next level when we feel desperate.We feel worn down by the other person's criticism, negativity, or irresponsible behavior.We have been rejected or cut off, and the other person won't show up for the conversation.We are struggling with staying or leaving, and we don't know our "bottom line."We …